If you are not in support of marriage equality (whether that means you voted no on R-74, chose not to vote on it, or don't believe that same-gender couples should be allowed to get married), I am asking you to delete me from your facebook, tumblr, instagram.. and/or delete my phone number from your phone. It has taken me a lot of thought and consideration to come to this point... and I have been told this is an extreme position to take.. but I stand firm by it. And here is why.
At the very CORE of this issue.. if you are not in support of marriage equality, this means you don't truly believe I deserve the same rights as you do. For some reason, in your mind, you deserve more as a human being than I deserve.
I have come to a place that I am past the point of putting up with being considered "less than" by anyone in my life. I have dreamed about getting married and having a family since I was little.. just like most people dream about their future. It's completely unfair that my right to have these things that are freely given to others is being put to a vote. My right to a marriage and a family is being placed in the hands of millions of people that don't know me.
I just want to make this very clear... if you are against same-sex marriage, you are against tiff and I. So please.. don't act like you're supportive of me. Like you want me to be happy in my life. Because you don't. Not truly. And if you do not support marriage equality, whether that means you voted no or chose not to vote on it, please don't plan on coming to my wedding. And I absolutely mean that.. regardless of whether you are a friend, an acquaintance, or a family member. Obviously, I will have no way of knowing how you voted... but if you have the boldness to vote against it, then please have the boldness to stay true to that decision.
One day, regardless of what the law says, tiff and i will have a wedding and celebrate the true love that we share, and we only want the people present with us in that celebration to be people that genuinely support and see the value in the love that we share.
This may make my circle a little smaller.. but I'm okay with that. It's not going to be this big, dramatic event. "In fact, you'll be creating space in my life for others to come in who do feel that my being here on the planet matters."
"Bottom line: I don't care who you are; whether you are my relation by blood or a longtime acquaintance, I don't want "friends" who don't think I'm as good as they are. I want friends who value me, who see my worth as a human being, and who fully support my equal protections under the law."
Explained here by someone who feels the same way:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kergan-edwardsstout/romney-lgbt-rights_b_1980231.html?utm_hp_ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false#sb=3144177,b=facebook
much love to every person out there that has supported me. and to every person that has supported tiff and i. and to every person who has supported other queer/lgbt people in our community. you DO make a difference <3.
